Today's author spotlight is on Skylar Cates. :) She is blogging about the dating world and how she fell in love. Make to sure to leave her a comment to let her know you stopped by.
Ready For Love?
When I was single, friends loved to give me various dating advice: don’t go to the single bars, don’t hit the Internet, don’t have sex too soon, don’t call the day after, and on and on…It was exhausting. I got to the point where I preferred staying in with a good book and a glass of wine. Ironically, the moment I decided that I no longer needed this love stuff, I met my husband.
The dating world can be crazy. Marriage can be even more insane. I remember my cousin dated her husband for nearly 8 years until she finally gave him an ultimatum: a ring or a breakup. He gave in and they had a very sensible wedding and are still married today, yet whenever I see him at family functions, I sense zero affection between them. On the other side of the spectrum, a friend of mine rushed into living with somebody after only four months. They seemed wild about each other. She found out the hard way, though, that he had a substance abuse problem and a crazy ex-girlfriend.
In my stories, my characters are hardly ready for love. They fumble and resist. They don’t always trust each other. They misunderstand each other. Yes, they’re a mess, but that is where the satisfaction comes into it too. A good story makes me root for the characters to persevere. After the entire struggle to accept love, it makes me happy to see them finally triumph. I want them to have a HEA, and if that makes me a sap, so be it.
Besides, are any of us really ready for love? And how do we even know? Despite all that dating advice from friends, I wasn’t. Were you? What’s the best (or worst) dating advice that you ever received?
Thanks for hosting me today!
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