Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Author Spotlight: Skylar Cates - Ready For Love?

Today's author spotlight is on Skylar Cates. :) She is blogging about the dating world and how she fell in love. Make to sure to leave her a comment to let her know you stopped by.
Ready For Love?
When I was single, friends loved to give me various dating advice: don’t go to the single bars, don’t hit the Internet, don’t have sex too soon, don’t call the day after, and on and on…It was exhausting. I got to the point where I preferred staying in with a good book and a glass of wine. Ironically, the moment I decided that I no longer needed this love stuff, I met my husband.

The dating world can be crazy. Marriage can be even more insane.  I remember my cousin dated her husband for nearly 8 years until she finally gave him an ultimatum: a ring or a breakup. He gave in and they had a very sensible wedding and are still married today, yet whenever I see him at family functions, I sense zero affection between them. On the other side of the spectrum, a friend of mine rushed into living with somebody after only four months. They seemed wild about each other. She found out the hard way, though, that he had a substance abuse problem and a crazy ex-girlfriend.

In my stories, my characters are hardly ready for love. They fumble and resist. They don’t always trust each other. They misunderstand each other. Yes, they’re a mess, but that is where the satisfaction comes into it too. A good story makes me root for the characters to persevere. After the entire struggle to accept love, it makes me happy to see them finally triumph. I want them to have a HEA, and if that makes me a sap, so be it.

Besides, are any of us really ready for love? And how do we even know?  Despite all that dating advice from friends, I wasn’t. Were you? What’s the best (or worst) dating advice that you ever received?

Thanks for hosting me today!

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  1. Great post Skylar!Sappiness and happily ever afters are great and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

    The best dating advice anyone ever gave me was actually from my dad who told me quite simply "be with someone who makes you happy".

    The worst advice I ever got was actually marriage advice from a girl whose wedding was about six months before mine. She told me that you should always have sex with your husband whenever he wants it. Even if you don't, because then you can ask for stuff later. I give them less than a year before the divorce papers are filed.

  2. Thanks for the comment, Cate! Keep me posted on that girl. LOL!